Sunday, March 12, 2006

Sugasm #25 organization = sexy

The best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them, this time categorized.

Posts with NSFW pics are in italics. Keep in mind NSFW pic labeling is just for photos/layout images on the specific page linked. Pretty much everything here is NSFW, but you like it like that.











Announcements/Blogging
The Partistes (seska4lovers.com…)
Shibaricon: World’s Premiere Annual Pansexual Exhibition 2006 (spiritsex.blogspot.com…)
SugarClick Launched (sugarbank.com…)
Stat-Aholic (shaysotherspot.blogspot.com…)


Experiences
The Dreaded Scottish Cockblock (jundercovers.blogspot.com…)
The Four of Us (herknees.org…)
Killing an Afternoon (secretsofadirtygirl.blogspot.com…)
Losing M (v-boat.blogspot.com…)
Mmmmmm, Yummy! (aliferestarted.blogspot.com…)
Resistance is Futile (avaadora.blogspot.com…)
Underground (domequeen.blogspot.com…)

Fantasies
Eagle (barbiebaby09.livejournal.com…)
Exhaling (emergingontheotherside.blogspot.com…)
Hot Sugar and Wet Silk (tangysweet.blogspot.com…)
On the Dock (Fiction) (bikersballsandteacherstits.blogspot.com…)
Saturday with Adele (theholidaylife.blogspot.com…)
Stormy Night (gentlygently.blogspot.com…)
Tandem Massages (alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com…)
25 Words or Less (contains NSFW pics if you scroll down) (realadultsex.com…)
Babysitter (drtycplinva.blogspot.com…)

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Body Language (chaosnoir.blogspot.com…)
Can I Play with it Now? (4dirtylaundry.blogspot.com…)

Funny
Jane likes to teeter totter. (janeluvsdick.com…)
Santorum (radicalvixen.com…)
This is what Happens… (damnjezebel.com…)
We All Have AIDS (sugarpit.com…)
The Cock Interviews: Part Two (secretbrain.blogspot.com…)

Fetish & BDSM
A Long Hot Soak and Burning Candles (redvelvetropeburn.blogspot.com…)
Interesting Interactions (lifeashis.com…)
New Elena Spanking Pics (tirepaddle.com…)
On a Power Trip (whatsexmaycome.blogspot.com…)
The Perfect Fetish Photo (adelehaze.com…)
“The sweetest thing I ever saw, was you asleep and dreaming.” (eternalapprentice.blogsome.com…)
Choices - Part Three (masterenigma.blogspot.com…)

NSFW Pics
House of Babalon (eroticandy.blogspot.com…)
Looking Down (barelace.blogspot.com…)
O azul… // The blue one… (camadecasal.blogspot.com…)
Wet Panties Wednesday (hornynurse.livejournal.com…)
Anal Advocate (sexyukgirl.blogspot.com…)
Aurora Snow, Gauge and a Dildo. Pure Magic. (internetisforporn.com…)

Sex Advice / Sex Toys / Sexy Reviews
Oh Boys… May I Experiment on You? (sexeteria.blogspot.com…)
One Hefty Dose of Butch, Black, Silicone Bliss (suburbansexpot.blogs.com…)
Pretty Dumb Things (sugarclick.com…)
Sex Toys Must Have (creamonpants.com…)
Tips for Going Bare (shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com…)
The Blind Jockey (sin.typepad.com…)

Sex Commentary / Sexual Politics
Lara Drops to a C Cup (sugarjoy.com…)
Porn You Wish They’d Make (sabrinainstockings.com…)
Sex in the News - Blog-a-Thon by Blank Noise Project (seskuality.com…)
2257 and Sweet Pink Activist Cunt (fullfrontalpolitics.com…)

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Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Stat-Aholic

I have a confession to make,
like many other bloggers, am obsessed with checking my stats.
Yes, I'm a stat-aholic and a comment whore.

A few times a day, I log in and check out how many people have visited me today, which pages people are looking at, what pages they are coming from, what keywords people are using to find me, and if I'm really feeling needy I check out the visitor paths and cities that people are visiting from.

All in all it wastes a lot of time, but I can't stop.
I need it.
I need to know that The S Spot is loved!

As a handful of you know, I am currently employed as a super awesome research assistant. Lately I have been working intensively on some self-esteem projects around sociometer theory.
After a long day in the lab, I was thinking about one of the experiments I had just been reviewing and it struck me how the stat counter software kind of mimics social cues of relational value.

[Now stick with me, things are going to get confusing for a moment]

According to sociometer theory, our state self-esteem is always in flux (trait self-esteem is more stable, in case you were wondering) - it is constantly responding to cues from our environment. Subconsciously we are always watching for cues that indicate how much people like us (our relational value).

When we perceive that people like us we get a little boost of happy-good feelings (positive affect) and tend to feel a little more secure in ourselves. When we get a cue that people don't like us, we feel down (negative affect) and usually try to change things so that people will like us again.

According to sociometer theory, this is natural and healthy because if we didn't try to get people to like us, then we could end up alone and for our ancestors alone = dead. So it makes sense that we would have learned to be sensitive to cues about how much people like us at the moment (and in general).

SO
[I bet you thought I forgot my point!]

Stat counters continually give me cues as to what people think about my blog(s) - it tells me which pages people like and it tells me how many people are coming. On days where I have a high count of hits I feel good - "yay my blog is doing well!", on days where not many people visit my site, I feel down and wonder what I need to do to get more people to visit (and thus love) my blog.

As I'm sure my fellow bloggers can confirm, we put a lot of ourselves into our blogs, so when people don't like our blogs (or don't visit them), it can hurt on a more personal level.

Bloggers might be the most sensitive people out there to social cues because we are so addicted to our stats and measure our blog/personal value in so many ways - like with comments.
Comments are even better than statcounter because it shows that not only are people visiting your site, but they like it enough to comment!

They joy of receiving comments is definitely something that bloggers understand - which is why I think it's usually bloggers leaving comments on their colleagues' pages while the anonymous readers remain silent.

So what's the point of my post?
Just letting you know that you're not completely crazy for checking your stats several times a day and that being a comment whore is okay.
Carry On. ^_~

(pix borrowed from here)

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Saturday, March 04, 2006

Sugasm #24

The best of the blogs by the bloggers who blog them,
this week starting with the letter H:

(woot! pic from my post!)







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